Is it necessary?

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Why is Letting Go often so difficult?

Lodged in my bones
are your words
through the years

Is it necessary
that I feel them all?
when they begin
to dislodge
on their
way out?

I had managed
to smile
with them
sealed
all within
my strong bones

My words
never really
made it
from your ears
to your heart,
slid right down
from your strong ribcage
down to the floor,
and you said
you heard me

And I said,
Letting go
Is the way

But
is it really necessary?
that I feel them all?
The words
that you
didn't mean
yet said,
And now
are getting
dislodged
from my bones
to be let go

Love remains
after it all
Is it felt
as dry
Or then
wet drenched
in my tears,
that you
don't see
any reason for?
Is it love
after all?

Love
I will not
let go of
I will hold it
through my 
screams to be heard

Will the holes
in my bones
accept
your version
of love
to get filled
enough
to bring me
a smile?

98 thoughts on “Is it necessary?

  1. Wow! My daughter and I were just discussing this very thing, how long it takes to purge our minds from all the gaslighting and manipulative thoughts which were told to us in an unhealthy love relationship!

    Releasing those words mindfully does entail being aware of it, listening to it once again in order to recognize the lie and be able to finally release it. I’ve been practicing speaking kind words to myself to fill in those holes where the words once took anchor!

    Love how your prose exactly speaks those very poignant thoughts! Nailed it!!

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  2. Wow!! This is so beautiful and amazingly written as always! I absolutely love it! There are many lovely and thought-provoking paradoxes here that add a spectacular depth to this piece! I am inspired as poet!!! The way you tie love in at the end is perfect too!!! Well done friend, much love and hugs πŸ–€πŸ€—

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    • It is so much my joy that you see my emphasis on Love at the end, find depth and inspiration in this piece. It had come to flow out of nowhere or from some depths of my being that it often stuns me how it comes together, I know you understand this. Thank you lovely friend, for your clear seeing and kind appreciation. Much Love.

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  3. All these lines spoke to me but especially this one, β€œLove
    I will not
    let go of
    I will hold it
    through my
    screams to be heard”
    Makes me think about your ability to hold love for yourself and for this person who has hurt you. I hope the pain fades away and this is a release. Much love your way!

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    • Thank you dear friend Ka for repeating those lines, I find it important to hold on to love while we practice compassion towards self and others. We are given these interlinked journeys as opportunities to heal our deepest wounds – they are blessings in a way :)) We wouldn’t feel the hurt if we felt already whole and Hurt people hurt other people. Thank you for sending love, I am so happy you visited!

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  4. So beautifully described…the realization…the dilemma…the process. For me these lines said it all.

    But
    is it really necessary?
    that I feel them all?
    The words
    that you
    didn’t mean
    yet said,
    And now
    are getting
    dislodged
    from my bones
    to be let go

    …to feel them deeply one last time, accept the shallowness of the said, and release it all from one’s own depth where they ended up getting stored.

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  5. Beautiful poem with beautiful words. Are feelings necessary? Yes in my opinion. Necessary to feel them ALL? No would be my answer. One can be picky about what feelings to feel. Feel the ones you like and stuff the others in the cupboard 😊

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    • One can be picky about what feelings to feel – yes this is so powerful and sort of playful too! I think I could operate that way for quite a while, and then suddenly found myself unable to. I will take your friendly reminder :)) Thank you very much for your kind appreciation and thoughtful response.

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  6. Superb and profound poem on Letting Go, Pragalbha. It is so important for our own peace and calmness though very, very difficult cause our egos do not want us to forgive and let go but catch on to the negatives of life. Being positive and living a life of happiness is what life is truly all about.

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  7. Hugs. Your poem from start to end, fits so many situations in life I feel. Every verse, strikes a cord in my heart, mind in agreement with you.

    Your starting..
    “…Lodged in my bones are your words through the years..”

    Then…”…
    My words never really made it from your ears to your heart, slid right down from your strong ribcage down to the floor, and you said you heard me
    And I said, Letting go Is the way
    But is it really necessary? that I feel them all? The words that you didn’t mean yet said, And now are getting dislodged from my bones to be let go….”

    No it is not necessary to feel all the words in our bones, in our hearts, mind and veins.
    Holes in our bones, heart, and minds. No it not necessary for them to be lodged, stuck in. Like acid creating holes.

    We can’t live stuck, lodged, or with holes. No we just can’t be broken for ever. We can’t let pain eat us like a cancer. I say to myself, no these elements of rubbish are being cleared and in spring I start a new me, a new life. Past is past, it can’t be undone, but it will not a be brought balance from one season to another. I let it go. I set myself free.

    I needed to read this. I needed to do some more letting go.

    As always a really beautiful profound, tear causing poem. Beautifully written. A lovely read

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    • I feel so blessed grateful to have your presence and your deeply thoughtful response here – I know you are on a break to rest and reset, yet I think it was important for me to read your response, so truly thankful that you took the time.

      I appreciate your powerful stance you share with me that says – no it is not necessary to feel, we can’t let it stick, create holes, that we can let go all of it once and for all, and set free, start anew.

      It empowers me to create this kind of space for myself. It seems I could do this very successfully for long and then suddenly found myself unable to without the accompanying pain. That’s when I realized that some things get lodged deep as if in the bones.

      Love is the answer to fill all the holes I believe, I hope I can grow in Love so enormously that I can live like you say – in one fell swoop, done and dusted – I love this description. You made me realize that I am indeed operating like a drip system :))) bit by bit.

      Much Gratitude. Much Love to you. Hugs and smiles :))

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      • I always love your post. Even though i was on break I was checking my email and I saw you beautiful poem. And I just had to comment.

        The response I wrote was a message to myself – really. There are somethings that happen to us, slowly over time and we don’t even realize. They go so deep we don’t even know, until we try to get over it. When things get Lodged. I feel they need to be soaked ,so the hardness is softened and easily released. And love is a good softener.

        I also journal a lot and meditate – linking with the Divine releases so much. Of course I practice, gratitude, affirmation and a letting go exercise. But, sometimes, I just spend a good amount of time in meditation, my conversation with the divine, and I let him heal me. Sometimes I don’t realise when I became whole. But, then a test paper comes and I see oh I did well, oh i didn’t do so well. So then i go back to my deep inner work and until i am fixed. Wish you all the succcess.

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  8. So profoundly beautiful! I love love love so many things about this piece… but, what stands out the most for me… is the bones!!!! I had the utter awareness/teaching/learning/download just last year about our bones. I knew deeply all of the sudden how we store memory there. I had never really thought of it that way before and the awareness was profound for me (about bones and stones). I love the way this knowing is throughout this piece and I love how you echo “strong” and strength throughout as well – so inspiring and uplifting and encouraging that we CAN and still – Love… This piece somehow takes me to a primary (since birth 😊) relationship … one that has been tough throughout the years… not too long ago that person asked me to sort of relive old words that I no longer recalled and drag me back to past things that no longer lived within me (after the letting go)… I understand why – because those things still lived within that person… but, I knew those things were not there within me and the way you talk about holes and “your version of love” just hits such a tender yet oh so STRONG space within me. Thank you for this piece! My words can’t really do it justice here, just know that it has been profoundly moving for me. Thank you thank you thank you… such a specific beauty here. Wow! Standing ovation!!!!! πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»

    Love thinking about our bones again as a result too… off to continue excavating and discovering all the wonders that are stored within. πŸ˜Šβ€οΈπŸ™πŸ»πŸ€—

    Love you!

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    • You have given me a deepest trust in this moment in myself for how I have processed these things, with your immensely engaging thoughtful response, I wish I can convey how touched, humbled, understood, grateful and fulfilled I feel! I am so delighted that you fully get it how truly I used the words bones, the strength and the capacity for Love that can still permeate it all. And the dilemma of the versions of love that we are made required to live with. What a joy that you receive it with as much tenderness from which this poem somehow just started to flow and kept going until it had been all poured out. I was only a stunned witness looking at it. I love the idea of welcoming the excavating and the discovery with wondrous curiosity. you empower me. How did I get so lucky to have your presence here? Infinite Gratitude with Love my friend.

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      • What a delightful response you have blessed me with here… the connection is so deeply felt. I cannot thank you enough. Your kind comment here reads like another poem and touches me so deeply in this feeling of knowing… something… in kind of a mysterious, yet so full of love kind of way… if that makes sense 😊… hard to put into words. So appreciative to have connected with you here… so special! It is really special how you say “given me a deepest trust in this moment in myself…” … it just shows how beautifully things go when we both show up with generous listening and absolute authenticity… it is such a beautiful way to connect and just what the world needs more of now. I am so very grateful to you for making it happen here. So grateful!!!! Sending you so much love and a giant Spirit Hug!!!

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        • You gift me with deepest smiles yet again :))))))
          Your spirit hug is most precious, I receive it fully with much gratitude, back to you in multifold πŸ’›βœ¨πŸ’›βœ¨πŸ’›βœ¨πŸ’›βœ¨πŸ’›βœ¨πŸ’›βœ¨πŸ’›βœ¨

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  9. Superb! The emotions have been captured so well in this poem Prag. Loved it.
    While it becomes necessary to let go, the ache remains within, somewhere, becomes deep-rooted and yes, it is essential to feel each word and the one who doesn’t, is not worth our attention.

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    • I am so grateful that you took the time to read and makes me happy that you understand the emotion here. To completely let go, comes with that much more pain when things are that deep rooted. I agree with you about some of them not worth our attention. Thank you so much for your kind appreciation.

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  10. Oh wow, your courage and your honesty I applaud!! Prag, the way you wrote these words is incredible! In order to heal yes we have to feel to let go. Is it love when words drip on the floor never entering the heart? No. Loving yourself the way you do not accepting anything but love is honoring your heart and soul. Letting go is painful. Very. And terrifying. Very. We must be on the same wavelength for I too have posted a very vulnerable and courageous post all about seeing the fear, feeling it, and then rising about to let it go to again step into my power. Wow!! I am so proud of you!! BIG HUGS!!! xoxoxoxo

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    • I feel so blessed to have these journeys validated, supported, honored in this space – it is indeed very painful and terrifying. Confusing when so many versions of so called love colide with each other asking for attention and emotion. And to choose only the one that honors our heart and soul, something so many live completely unaware of in their practised life.
      Thank you dearest Amy for being here with your truth shining. Power and Joy of Being awaits on the other side of Letting Go. I will be there at your post shortly.

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      • It’s a Journey, dear friend, of understanding what love is and what love is not. It’s the Journey of the heart. We are taught so many things that we “believe” are true what love is. Well, those of us who have worked very hard with inward healing, begin to realize what we once thought love is, it is not. Painful realizations as in hindsight we know we succumbed to something less then what we truly deserve. Yet with conditioning we honestly didn’t know anything else. It only gets better from here, Prag. When you know and I mean know what love is and you refuse to budge to accept anything less then love in your life, your life changes. I know. I’ve witnessed it in my own life. SMILE!! xo

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        • A child like laughter broke within me for how clearly you are seeing this for me, and then a deep smile continued to descend in my heart. You are as if watching me cross that threshold of the room I have been in forever, seemingly comfortable and comforting everyone with me. I embraced being there, I didn’t know better. Yet now I sense there is no turning back and yes anything less is unacceptable to me, it is indeed all on the verge of change. Thank you for flashing your beaming smile and light of support, assuring me.

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  11. Beautiful post on letting go Pragalbha. I have been struggling with doing just that over the last few weeks. I realize that I need to ‘dislodge’ it from my heart. It’s far more stubborn than I thought.

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  12. Letting Go, especially of words… For words can cut deeper than any knife and leave their scars long after a knife wound has healed…
    Learning to not let them soak into our bones, and learning that those who gave us those cuts, were also perhaps wounded too… Perhaps one of my own deepest lessons Pragalbha, And saying the words, I forgive you..

    Loved the poem.. So happy you have been so busy writing your wisdom again here dear friend.. And so pleased to be once more reading them..

    Stay blessed dear friend ❀ ❀ ❀

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    • I was so unaware mostly of how words affect us that deeply, as if actually defining how we live life. I agree with you about all of us meeting each other from our wounded place. With acceptance and forgiveness we can rise above these patterns. Deep lessons indeed. They come with their elements of peace and pain.
      What a gift to me that you visited πŸ’› thank you truly, wishing you a happy amazing spring time 🌹🌸🌺πŸ₯€πŸ’πŸŒ·πŸ΅οΈπŸŒ»πŸŒΌ

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  13. Your poem makes me wonder about the words we let in to reside in our bones, how long we carry them with or without awareness, and the process of letting them go. Does each person need to find their own way forward? Are there common ways that speak to many? Can we let them leave us in peace or is pain part of the process? Many questions to consider. You know I love questions.
    You did a wonderful job of expressing the emotions of your experience.
    Sending you peace and light,
    Ali

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  14. I had thought to comment but so many wonderful comments! I don’t know what I could add. I am grateful for the connection with you and the chance to explore all these other people with such depth of perception expressed on your work.

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    • Oh but your thoughts would be as much precious for me to know, just as they would come from you, really for me. Including the comment you chose to leave waiting for me, I can always sense it when it comes from your heart and I receive so much from that. Thank you very much for your kind visit πŸ™πŸΌπŸ˜ŠπŸ’›

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