The Ordinary Extraordinary

Photo by myself: Crater Lake, Oregon. Unedited mobile click – what is so ordinary or extraordinary about this picture?

It helps to blur the line between ordinary and extraordinary, whichever end we think us to be on. When extraordinary strength is required for everyday life during challenging situations that seem to be present for a long term, it helps to remember that even ‘normal’ life feels the same periodically.

I realized this when I dealt with a difficult illness for some years with no break of ‘normalcy’. I decidedly trained myself to accept my new normal and then the days that felt really hard became just like any ‘normal’ life. It lifted the burden of Why Me-s and made it somewhat more acceptable to live through the ordinary pain of a seemingly extra-ordinary situation (or vice versa).

And when we think of us as ordinary and normal it helps to remember that we hold the potential for extraordinary. When life is ‘normal’ we take it for granted that only some special people have strength. We forget that they are choosing to be strong. All of us have the choice to go a bit beyond our comfort zone, with integrity to our well being.

I love and admire people who have, what I don’t have in me yet. We need all shades of capacity, resilience and joy in differing measures from time to time. I keep learning to love myself more and more with all my perceived shortcomings. It gives a renewed taste of newfound freedom continually.

All things big and small when dropped to the felt sense become our internal experiences. No experience is ordinary or extra-ordinary, in some ways. Just because it happens to everyone and is normal, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be affected. If our thoughts and emotions are taking over that means our experience is real. It is affecting the quality of our life. Acceptance is being aware of all of that.

When fear grips, it means some perceived and real experiences have left us with no control over how we feel and choose. It becomes a struggle even when we have had a taste of divine faith before. We now seem to have lost the ability to be congruent with the core of our original being. When our system is out of balance the fear might bring up some pain or symptom in the body. We might feel agitation or confusion in the mind, we lose the capacity to connect with divine faith.

It is helpful at such times to create experiences to influence our system in the direction of balance. This can be done in various ways. A breathing practice that brings the body and mind to a calmer & clearer state of being, time in solitude or nature with nurturing activities. To me sometimes I just need honest conversations with people who can act as authentic mirrors to me. Either a friend or mentor who reinforces and channels that sense of trust, faith or divine connection back in our system.

I have found tremendous rich value in this process of intentional shifts between imbalance & balance, ordinary & extraordinary, and fear & faith. I am blessed to be a receiver of such reinforcements from friends and teachers that I reach out to.

I am also grateful to have opportunities to facilitate such shifts through the yoga classes that I teach in group and private sessions. If you are curious check my humble yoga website: http://www.YogaSaar.com

This post is from a train of thoughts that I had saved in my drafts. I would be honored to know what came up for you and if we are able to exchange perspectives.

Suffering

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Photo Credit: Vikram Phale

Suffering is a sweet poison
One that seems to come without a choice
It stings sharp and deep
While it releases the nectar of Truth
It ends only after it has revealed
What’s hiding underneath

Yes, you surely dislike it
It asks for a new way of being
Once you embrace it
It’s definitely more than sweet

Lot of times we dislike what we need
And need what we dislike
Suffering makes sure we choose
That which we Must choose

It cracks us open to the light of our soul
May you now play any role
Your truth will behold

Makes you wonder who chose who
You chose the suffering
Or the suffering You

Go seek that which is waiting for you!

As humans, sometimes we go through the most mind/heart shattering experiences. They become a journey of profound transformation and there is no looking back from there. These experiences come in different forms – primary relationship breakups, intense health situations, life threatening illness, loss of someone close… All these experiences are common in the way how painful they can become.

When we feel like the ground under our feet has been pulled or shook violently, life as we know it, is no more …it’s only that …life, the way it existed, is ending.  It does not mean precious life itself is ending. It can just feel like dying, several times too, while alive. This is time of rebirth. Our personal rebirth. Intense transformation!  This kind of transformation uproots us at great depths. The process of birthing is very painful. So is this rebirth. It makes us cry. In mourning, of losing what we knew to be our normal.  Then, we have to learn to smile again. Find new beginnings.

In doing so, think only of your own well-being first. You cannot at this time afford any of your precious energy to think about what others think or even maybe how you want to revenge others. This is your journey. Be very selective in who you take along with you on this road. When we acknowledge our journey, we learn to recognize who is genuinely a part of it. We feel and become better for the joy of being with them. The rest realize that they have no business having fake concern for us. We realize we don’t need to put energy in anything that we can’t sustain or doesn’t nourish us …YOU ARE YOUR ONLY BUSINESS!

We find too many testimonials around, if we look, this road only leads to a beautiful life. You are never given what you cannot handle. You are too important to many people. Even though some have hurt you, or your own body seems to have betrayed you. Find gratitude for everything you find is serving you. You are not alone. You will now suddenly find all those gem of Beings who will see you for only being you. Not what they need you to be for them, or what they might want from you.

We are simply awakened to what is really true for us. I have come to call these places ‘our tunnels’. All of us go through them. And we are all supported in the utmost possible way. The more steps we willingly and courageously take, the more we get closer to the light at the end of the tunnel. We come out on the other side with clarity and luminosity. All those true to us and truly for us are found, waiting right there for us.

My favorite description  of this comes from Yoga teacher/Author Cain Carroll …

“The spiritual path eventually leads into the forest; each of us must walk that stretch alone. In the darkness of the unknown, a great fire consumes the conditioned version of who we constructed ourselves to be. All seems to be lost. What is lost truly never was. I call it the Great Disillusionment.”

This is our precious time with ourselves, to identify our strengths and resources. One day we will turn around and become the strength and resource for someone else. We would exactly help them explore the darkness of their tunnel and the richness of that experience. We would stand intact, to show them, how we used the overwhelming force of seemingly destructive change, that affected our perfect & normal life, to transform us into these tremendous beings filled to the brim with gratitude, kindness and love!

At the junction of what’s been and where we are headed, we look at the new beginnings with a new found sparkle in our eyes, as we open ourselves to the brilliant light and the miraculous beauty of Life ahead! We find Life to be perfect while never expecting it to be any perfect …We take it on with all its vibrant and varied hues!

Quoting Cain Carroll again …

“The living life force, like crystal clear radiant Light, is constantly holding and nourishing you. Open yourself fully to this Light, feel deeply into your being, let it drench every cell of your body and mind, and let it wash your heart into total love. When this process is complete, you will be fully healed.”

Go seek that which is waiting for you !!!

 

Suffering

Suffering is a sweet poison
One that seems to come without a choice
It stings sharp and deep
While it releases the nectar of Truth
It ends only after it has revealed
What’s hiding underneath!

Yes, you surely dislike it
It asks for a new way of being
Once you embrace it
It’s definitely more than sweet!

Lot of times we dislike what we need
And need what we dislike
Suffering makes sure we choose
That which we Must choose!

It cracks us open to the light of our soul
May you now play any role
Your truth will behold!

Makes you wonder who chose who
You chose the suffering
Or the suffering You!