
She.
She WAS my neighbor growing up.
WAS.
As of today, she WAS where I always met her when I visited my parents back home in India. Meeting her was a natural extension of my being there, unsaidly expected.
I was a young girl when she came in as a young newlywed. Today I watch my life backward through that lens. I remember her joy when her husband would come back for his monthly visit to her and his family, from his job far away.
She knew my happiness with new dresses and would share her new shopping with me – “Here wear these to college this week, enjoy them. I can wear them all the time later.”
Her son was the baby I came home to play with every day, throughout his growing phases. He calls me Didi and I used to address her as Tai – both refer to a big sister. It is lovely how it didn’t matter what relation we regard each other with – it is the impact we have by being in each other’s life in the most ordinary ways.
I clearly remember our last meeting & conversation 2 years ago and somehow I am very content with it – we had connected through our eyes and shared genuinely, there was Love.
That’s it. That’s all matters. Because we don’t ever know when it is our last meeting, with anyone. I never took pictures with her – I have a snapshot of our life together living in me.
Dear Tai, your courage through life is seen and has made a difference. In unknown ways too. I will miss you. I miss you.
Everything else that could be said, I hold in silence.
Note: I wrote this exactly last year and wished to share it with you all here, as we mark one year of her passing.
Nice tribute! Itβs good to keep memories alive of the ones that have left us π
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Thank you truly _()_ yes they remain forever with us.
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Youβre welcome π
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A beautiful tribute to your sweet friend Pragalbha and so many lovely memories to carry in your heart. Thank you for sharing this moment with us and lighting a candle for her here too πππ xxx
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Thank you kindly for joining in my sentiment Xenia _()_
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A warm hug, Pragalbha.
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Thank you Rupali _()_
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Sounds like a very special neighbour, a respectful friend/fixture throughout your life … sorry for your loss! a big warm hug π
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Thank you Kate _()_
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always a pleasure Pragalbha π
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Touching words and lovely photo. πΌ Your thoughts about being content with your last conversation with her and having a snapshot living in yourself stood out to me. Beautiful and peaceful sentiments. π Warm regards.
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Thank you Michele for joining in my sentiments and sharing what stood out for you – it felt special.
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You are welcome, Pragalbha. Thank you for sharing a personal reflection that reminds us to cherish the moments we have. π
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So many people we meet and greet, Love in friendship, and experience long or short times in the window which is our lives… For your friend Tai, to leave such an impression. I am also certain you also left one within her own memory..
None of us as you rightly say know when we say goodbye or see someone if that will be our last farewell…. Which is why we make the most of our energy exchanges in the now… Making each moment a memorable one with whom ever we meet…
Sending Love and condolences on this sad, yet also joyous anniversary .. For Tai left you a legacy of Lovely memories… π
Much love dear Pragalbha .. and loved your photo.. β€
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Some memories leave a deep impression on our hearts, some friends stay with us forever. What a wonderful way to remember one such person! Sending you a big hug Prag.
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Yes it is true – they are with us forever. Thank you Balroop.
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Your response touches me deeply dear Sue – it is beyond precious what we share here. It is these imprints of beautiful people we live with, that makes our life what it is. Thank you for your thoughtful words.
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‘Imprints of beautiful people..’… Perfectly said Pragalbha.. β€
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Aw, Prag, tears here. Huge lump in my throat. Life is so precious and so short. I feel your heartache. I feel your loss. To feel a loss means you have known love. That is the downside to love ….. endings. it is better to have loved than not to have loved at all. BIG HUGS!!! BIG ONES!!! I love you! xoxoxoxo
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Life is precious and short – true Amy. And the downside to Love – so much inherent pain for what our journey is for our life. Yet Love is the only way. Love is the only way π Thank you for your hugs and love always.
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Iβm so sorry about your sisterβs passing.
She sounds like she was a truly remarkable woman.
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Thank you for your kind words & visit.
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A beautiful honoring for someone very special to
you Pragalbha. Grief is an expression of our love. π§‘π€
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Grief is an expression of our love – I love this so much and agree with you. Thank you Karen for your kind words.
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Beautiful remembrance of Tai. May we all get to know and become people like her for someone else.
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Thank you Frank and I join you in that beautiful prayer you offer.
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I have a snapshot of our life together living in me – this poignant line resonates, Pragalbha, I lost a childhood friend last August and remember our last conversation vividly and like you, I am content. Your tender words have brought back many memories of my dear friend and have introduced me to the lovely Tai…
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What you share touches me deeply, thank you my friend. I feel a warm hug from our exchange of words and resonance.
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I miss hearing her voice and receiving cards from her, it’s still very hard to believe she’s gone…I imagine you feel the same.
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I hear you my friend.
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Such a beautiful tribute to your kind neighbor, Pragalbha. The poem reminded me of driving past my grandma’s old house for the last time. Even though she had lived far away and I didn’t see her often, it was comforting to know she was there. β€
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Thank you for sharing how you relate to this Cheryl – I remember my grandmother’s old house too, and there is such comfort in just that memory.
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How lovely a tribute to a person who meant so much to you and who played a role in your life. There is nothing like the power of the written word to keep a memory alive and to help us realize how much people like our neighbors do for us in the course of our lives. Beautiful! β€
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Thank you very much Layla for joining me in this memory lane – true indeed, how much our neighbors impact our life.
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Your words are deeply felt Pragalbha sharing such wonderful memories and reminders that life is precious and these memories sustain us through our life long after they are gone. We keep the snapshots alive in our minds and hearts. Beautifully shared and blessings to you! π
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Thank you Cindy for your kind words and blessings for me – it means a lot to me to know you feel my words.
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Memories that are so special and remain with us always. She seems to be a wonderful person, Pragalbha. Thank you for sharing her beauty and love with you. Wonderful post.
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Very true – memories are with us forever. Thank you kind friend for joining me in this tribute.
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Yes absolutely. I too am so happy to be with you on your journey. Always welcome. Love and hugs π€β€οΈπ€
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A moving tribute
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Thank you very much for your kind visit _()_
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Brought tears to my eyes. A beautifully moving tribute .. so beautifully expressive so eloquently written.. I hope you get to see her kids and share with them the memories you shared.
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Thank you dear Yassy for your heartfelt words _()_
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You are welcome dear Pragalbha.
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I am so sorry! May she continue to RIP
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Thank you my friend _()_
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You’re welcome! I pray that you are doing great even though you are thinking about your wonderful friend.
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Very kind of you _()_
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Hugs, a beautiful tribute. Hugs to you.
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Thank you Bella for your kind love.
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This is beautiful, Pragalbha β€ I am sorry for your loss; death is one of the hardest parts of life.
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Thank you very much Kathy. Yes it is.
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I love this piece, and am so grateful to you for sharing it with us. When we connect deeply with another human being, their passing can cause a lot of turmoil. Though, we are limitless, and unbound, and all expansive, the body is transient, and when we get this, there is a lot of grief work to do, which can offset the passing of close loved ones. I am working on some grief work now, and the space that is cleared up as this grief moves through is transformational. Amazing post, Pragalbha. :))
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Thank you so much Jeff for your visit and a thoughtful read as always. These life events leave us with a bitter-sweet gratitude for getting to be here and this life.
“the space that is cleared up as this grief moves through is transformational.” – Iloved what you say here and can relate to it.
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