The Ordinary Extraordinary

Photo by myself: Crater Lake, Oregon. Unedited mobile click – what is so ordinary or extraordinary about this picture?

It helps to blur the line between ordinary and extraordinary, whichever end we think us to be on. When extraordinary strength is required for everyday life during challenging situations that seem to be present for a long term, it helps to remember that even ‘normal’ life feels the same periodically.

I realized this when I dealt with a difficult illness for some years with no break of ‘normalcy’. I decidedly trained myself to accept my new normal and then the days that felt really hard became just like any ‘normal’ life. It lifted the burden of Why Me-s and made it somewhat more acceptable to live through the ordinary pain of a seemingly extra-ordinary situation (or vice versa).

And when we think of us as ordinary and normal it helps to remember that we hold the potential for extraordinary. When life is ‘normal’ we take it for granted that only some special people have strength. We forget that they are choosing to be strong. All of us have the choice to go a bit beyond our comfort zone, with integrity to our well being.

I love and admire people who have, what I don’t have in me yet. We need all shades of capacity, resilience and joy in differing measures from time to time. I keep learning to love myself more and more with all my perceived shortcomings. It gives a renewed taste of newfound freedom continually.

All things big and small when dropped to the felt sense become our internal experiences. No experience is ordinary or extra-ordinary, in some ways. Just because it happens to everyone and is normal, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be affected. If our thoughts and emotions are taking over that means our experience is real. It is affecting the quality of our life. Acceptance is being aware of all of that.

When fear grips, it means some perceived and real experiences have left us with no control over how we feel and choose. It becomes a struggle even when we have had a taste of divine faith before. We now seem to have lost the ability to be congruent with the core of our original being. When our system is out of balance the fear might bring up some pain or symptom in the body. We might feel agitation or confusion in the mind, we lose the capacity to connect with divine faith.

It is helpful at such times to create experiences to influence our system in the direction of balance. This can be done in various ways. A breathing practice that brings the body and mind to a calmer & clearer state of being, time in solitude or nature with nurturing activities. To me sometimes I just need honest conversations with people who can act as authentic mirrors to me. Either a friend or mentor who reinforces and channels that sense of trust, faith or divine connection back in our system.

I have found tremendous rich value in this process of intentional shifts between imbalance & balance, ordinary & extraordinary, and fear & faith. I am blessed to be a receiver of such reinforcements from friends and teachers that I reach out to.

I am also grateful to have opportunities to facilitate such shifts through the yoga classes that I teach in group and private sessions. If you are curious check my humble yoga website: http://www.YogaSaar.com

This post is from a train of thoughts that I had saved in my drafts. I would be honored to know what came up for you and if we are able to exchange perspectives.

99 thoughts on “The Ordinary Extraordinary

  1. β€œI have found tremendous rich value in this process of intentional shifts between imbalance & balance, ordinary & extraordinary, and fear & faith.” – I love how you say this…I totally resonate with these words from journeys through my infinite journey. I love the depth and vulnerability in this whole piece, such wise and thoughtful realizations/awakenings!!! You always talk about the waves in this journey so powerfully and with such grace, it’s soothing to the soul. Well done, my dear friend. Thank you for sharing with us πŸ™πŸ»πŸ€—πŸ–€

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  2. This is a special read, I love reading it throughout! To me sometimes I just need honest conversations with people who can act as authentic mirrors to me….. Relatable dear Pragalbha. Full of wise words, I always look forward to reading your posts. Thank you for sharing with us ❀️❀️

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  3. Keep living our lives and being open to whatever come our way πŸ’• the biggest shift for me was not robtakes things so seriously.
    Later I realized, I am a part of it it and I need a goal anymore. Life is always unfolding πŸ’›πŸ’•πŸ’›

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  4. Pragalbha, your post reminds me that the challenging times can offer the greatest lessons and I appreciate your awareness and shared thoughts about acceptance, fear, and being affected by emotions. Your students are fortunate to have your guidance, with body and mind balance. βœ¨πŸ§˜πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ

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  5. You are blessings all of us with your words, gained from difficult life experience. I used to think what I did was just ordinary, to be able to pull lessons from these difficult times but I’ve been told this is an incredible gift.

    You have a gift to be able to find your way out and to be able to tell others about it so they may follow!

    Blessings!
    Tamara

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    • Your words are a precious gift to me, truly means a lot πŸ™πŸΌπŸ’›
      You reminded me of another aspect of this – I did have to later realize and learn that I had shown some extraordinary courage, that I do have something to share and possibly help people through their suffering, give myself enough credit for the choices I made on the way. I guess blurring the boundaries goes both ways. You are so kind to highlight this in your own way. You have been a tremendous support in this space consistently, thank you very much dear Tamara.

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  6. I entirely resonate with your thoughts, so gently and beautifully articulated πŸ’™ I think of life as an ongoing flow of struggle and release; turmoil and peace. Sometimes we need to be the receiver of messages from others to shift our perception, and sometimes we have to be the messenger to others. Both of those roles can feel painful, but also healing. πŸ’™

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    • The beauty and depth in your words is so touching for me. I love and appreciate your description here, it is like reading your poetry. I also appreciate knowing you found gentleness in my writing, it makes me happy. Thank you very much for your thoughtful kindness _()_

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  7. “I love and admire people who have, what I don’t have in me yet. We need all shades of capacity, resilience and joy in differing measures from time to time. I keep learning to love myself more and more with all my perceived shortcomings. It gives a renewed taste of newfound freedom continually.”

    this is spot on, I always admire people who see the good in other people, even if it means they don’t have it. and I admire you for saying this. you are an inspiration.

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  8. Woww..! It’s such a wonderful piece dear..! And the image is so beautiful..! I love it very much.! Loved reading..! And also enjoyed..! I always look forward to reading your posts dear..! Keep shinning..!☺️☺️

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  9. During a challenging time in my life, I once read, “The human spirit is capable of much more than you think” – and that stayed with me. Your post reinstates my belief in the profundity and wealth of wisdom, resilience and capacity the “human spirit”, so to speak, embodies. No matter what the difficulty, we power through, we soldier on…

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    • Your words are so powerful, beautiful to read. How you say it reinforces my trust and looking back I feel the depth of your words perfectly describing how it has been along with the gifts such times bring. Thank you my kind friend for taking the time to add your thoughts here.

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  10. i had to have a pacemaker, i could not stand wo passing out. death number one. then i got congestive heart failure. death number two. many meds later i push myself to collapse. good things coming!

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  11. I agree with all your insights Prag. Thanks for sharing.
    Love that image of crater lake. When we visited it, it was misty due to sleet that greeted us for two days. I yearn to see those deep blues of this lake.
    Emerging from challenging times is the choice that we hold, it lies dormant till the need arises. My experiences with darkness taught me profound lessons. Suffering ennobles us, makes us resilient and helps us understand all alleys of life. 😊

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    • The deep blue of Crater Lake is just incredible, wishing you a beautiful trip back sometime.
      Your thoughts come from such deep experiences of life, I agree with you and you say it all beautifully. Thank you very much for taking the time to share your thoughts πŸ™‚

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  12. you write authentically from the heart and the comments demonstrate how many you touch Pragalbha! Your posts always resonate deeply as you are far more articulate on these matters than me … pray your yoga business is growing!

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  13. “It is helpful at such times to create experiences to influence our system in the direction of balance.” Remembering that we can influence, learn these things, is SUCH a tremendous gift to life balance, to LIFE.

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  14. Beautiful post!
    So true how we normally treat our β€œnormal” conditions. We must keep on reminding ourselves of the people who are struggling to make their not-normal, normal!

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  15. I like these thoughts Pragalbha. What resonates with me is the idea of being in tune with one’s emotions and body, so that we can know exactly what we need. This takes practice. In society, I think many of us are taught by friends and family to ignore how our body signals sadness/anger/warnings to us, so we have to unlearn these patterns of behavior to do as you’ve described here.

    I think we’d have a much more harmonious world if we all learned to feel.

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  16. What an exciting journey you are on, Prag! When we step into extraordinary, we come to realize how much bigger we are then what was first thought to be. When we step out of our comfort zone, we grow and become even stronger. What a wonderful collaboration of thoughts. I love the way your mind works. I don’t like to put labels on anything I do only that what I accomplished did I do so from a state of love or that of fear? The longer I stay in the State of Love, the shorter the periods are when I experience fear. The more Love is practiced, and yes it is a Practice, the more we realize how truly Divine we are.

    Keep shining your light, dear friend. Keep journeying, and stay awake as you are. It is not easy to stay awake at times, for it is downright painful to do so. Yet even the pain when embraced and not fought does teach us to leave us with a Gift. When we align with our True Nature and not what man taught us to be, the impossible becomes possible and our lives become magical.

    I so enjoyed reading your thoughts. It takes courage for others to read your thoughts. Thank you for embracing courage in order to share with us your very important thoughts. Got to go!! Sending you love!! xo

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    • It is such privilege to have your precious kind visit. Your words respond to my being as if a light that knows exactly what dark corners to reach. State of Love is the one reinforcement that I am drinking in as much continually. I have gotten better at recognizing my falls into fear, and climbing out with much more ease. Thank you for witnessing the pain of awakeness. “impossible becomes possible and our lives become magical” – I have a definite taste of this before and I certainly intend exactly that yet again.

      It takes courage for others to read your thoughts – somehow this comforted me, assured me there is nothing wrong with me. Thank you for that.

      Much Gratitude and Love πŸ™πŸΌπŸ™πŸΌπŸ™πŸΌπŸ™πŸΌπŸ’›πŸ’›πŸ’›βœ¨βœ¨βœ¨

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  17. Pragalbha, acceptance of your pain helped you to deal with it better. You definitely resonate courage and grace. A slight change in the perspective many times helps us move on through the challenge with gratitude.
    I believe you to ordinary things with extra love and genuineness and that’s what makes you extraordinary. You touch upon so many lives with your shining light through your blog and yoga. I am so glad to have found a friend in you here. Love always ❀ !

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    • Dear Radhika, your kind loving words are such a deep beautiful gift. I wish I could convey how much it means for me to read what you see in me. It takes one to know one my friend. Thank you for such generous positive reflection, it makes my day and moment of smile, love, peace and gratitude :))) So wonderful and lucky to have connected with you πŸ’›βœ¨

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  18. Your words make my wheels turn 😊 I believe all experiences are ordinary and extraordinary, it’s all dependent on the perspective we choose. When fear grips, I believe it’s a test of our control and we regain control through the choices we make. Sometimes, the process is longer or deeper than we imagine.

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    • It is indeed all about perspectives. I trust you understand this and you said it all perfectly. Yes I agree the process is longer, deeper than we imagine. Thank you very much for sharing your valuable thoughts.

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  19. A beautiful post, as always. Out of balance was my lived experience for, well, most of my adult life. However, about 4 years ago, I started breathing, at first, being coached, which then developed into my meditation practice today. Transformational. And, though “out of balance” still occurs, the swing from one emotional state to another is much smaller, and remaining centered easier. Again, lovely post, Pragalbha. β€οΈπŸ€—

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    • I am with you on this, have more years of imbalance to count and then the miracle of transformation, the considerable ease cultivated overtime through the intensity – so grateful for the way being carved. Your description is so perfect for how this journey is. Thank you so much for sharing so kindly and your appreciation of my post πŸ™πŸΌπŸ’›

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  20. Beautiful heartfelt sharing. To live a normal life with all its ups and downs is an extraordinary feat. I also understanding learning to accept a new “Normal”. Life changes and our Normal has to adjust. Proving that we are all unique and therefore Normal too has to be unique to use and the changing chapters of our life. What was normal 10 years ago is unrecognisable today and it is totally fine.

    A beautiful heartfelt post. Hugs always

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  22. Thank you so much for sharing this realisation with us. It’s an important realisation to have – I can relate to struggling with illness. I was born disabled and I’ve also longed for normalcy throughout most of my life until I realised that there’s no set rule for what normal has to be. I agree – I don’t quite do yoga but I do sometimes do wheelchair pilates and it really helps 😊

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    • You are wise, thoughtful, courageous, beautiful dear friend. It is very profound to realize there’s no set rule for normal and find gratitude in what is. I think you practice and live yoga better than anyone performing fancy postures, as to me yoga is more importantly a practice of the mind. It is yoga each time we breathe and Be consciously πŸ™‚ Thank you for visiting, taking the time to read and sharing your reflections.

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  23. What a beautiful & profound take on the transit from ordinary to extraordinary or vice versa! The journey, manifestation of journey and adjustments in mental plains, matters and perhaps are the keys! The impediments and roadblocks like fear, doubts, anxiety, comparisons etc are only to be dispelled with though natural so as to minimize the differences in perceptions. Loved reading the intricate meaning for ” we the people” Blessed times!

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  24. The reflection is about a soul who has moved beyond attachment and fears, Pragalbha and true Acceptance is what shall take us. I am happy being a learner in this fantastic journey, fear of the known and unknown, angst and what we cannot control but take control of us. You wrote it beautifully and in an enriching manner.

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  25. There are so many pearls of wisdom in this post, my friend.
    “Just because it happens to everyone and is normal, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be affected.” Such a good reminder that we each have our individual journey, even though the circumstances we encounter may be similar (when observed from the outside).

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