Days are long, Life is short

Photo by myself

2020 is a long year.
And yet it is already mid-November 2020.

My 15 year old said to me the other day “I can’t imagine living to 80 or 90 year old. That is just too much. I feel like I am on this Earth for too long already. I think it is tiring to keep living that long” He had said the exact same thing when he was 13 too.

I was speechless as to how to respond both times and a bit saddened that he thinks so. It took us few more conversations to arrive at the conclusion that the more we live to deliver to the expectations of social constructs, more tedious it seems to keep living.

I explained to him that I actually feel very young and I am forever learning something, growing, waiting to begin my life as if, and find that this lifetime wouldn’t be enough for what I think is possible. He explained to me that he doesn’t have time to think all that after attending school for 6 hours and working at assignments for another 5 or more hours. Then all we did was nod and smile at each other for what we had realized for ourselves.

The days are very long for my son who is in high school. The days can seem very short for me as I juggle my time between family chores and my personal pursuits. It can easily become overwhelming if I try to figure out what I should be doing. Most answers come from definitions of success and other conditioning. I have come to value Being – being at peace and joy and ease through anything that I am doing. This in itself becomes difficult at times as it involves setting boundaries and clearing attachment to certain ways of being.

It is a continuous process of discovery “What do I really want to do today?” that seems in alignment with me being my authentic self, in this moment and situation. Because life is very short really, to spend it any other way.

Dear friends and readers, I have made a friendly commitment to myself to post here every Monday. So I showed up today and simply decided to share what was lingering within and accessible to be expressed in words. I am absolutely thrilled to see if you have any thoughts to share with me on what became this post πŸ™‚

P.S :
Related post : Be-Come
Another conversation with my son when he was 11 : An attempt atΒ success?

78 thoughts on “Days are long, Life is short

  1. I ask the question: what does God (Jesus, Holy Spirit) want me to do with today. When I think I’ve understood I try to do that as well as I can. I don’t know whether that will help your son or not, but it has helped me.

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    • That is a very helpful and important perspective you share Frank. I feel like I have just recently found that kind of relation with God/inner Higher guidance. Hopefully I succeed in relaying it to him through my way of Being. The intermediate journey has been to find myself sorting through being lost in expectations and conditioning. I agree with you, the only responsibility is to do it as best as I can, once I listen carefully. Thank you very much for this valuable contribution.

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  2. Nice to connect with you Pragalbha πŸ™‚ Lovely post! I have two high schoolers and completely resonate with every word in the post! Reason I started blogging as well… to show them the abundance of what life has to offer!

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  3. length of life can seem long or short depending on your current situation as you both learnt from each other. When it is things we ‘choose’ to do to make our life more meaningful then time flies. But if it’s performing to fulfil societal expectations – do well at studies – then its a chore and time is slow.

    If he can change his attitude to study or see some light at the end of the tunnel it will help.

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  4. This is a very thoughtful morning read…very calming and soothing amidst all the negatity in the news and around..that simple conversations we have with our loved ones is really vital and valuable…thanks for sharing

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  5. Loved it, worth a read.. Thanks for all the awesome stuff you share.. Yes, if we want to we can hear Him, as He’s waiting for us to ask for his guidance, through His voice, which can never be heard, but felt.. Inexplicable the feelings are, when we get His answers silently.. Beautiful..!!!! πŸ™πŸΌπŸ˜

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  6. The high school world is so small. Unfortunately, they don’t know it. Besides, they think the rest of the world is just like theirs. Once they get it, their world will expand, and then (hopefully) life starts to click. On a related note – a personal -ism. Whenever people ask me if I would like to be whatever age, I always respond with the same answer …. and be that stupid again? No thanks.

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    • I agree about how a world looks to him. It is beautiful to watch him grow πŸ™‚
      I relate to what you say about age – I never want to go back to any past time, as what I know now is simply amazing and what I don’t know yet is pure magic. The number assigned to the age feels irrelevant to me, as how I feel within is often nothing related to what my age looks like, and I sincerely hope and wish to acquire more innocence and wonder with any personal growth happening for me.

      Thank you very much for your thoughtful response, truly.

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  7. Perceptions of time and how difficult life is changes and fluctuates with each phase we go through. Your teen is very fortunate to have your guidance and input in life! Blessings to you both!! 🌸🌸

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  8. I’m fascinated by your interaction with your son. I feel as though I can relate to you both, depending on the day or time when I check in with myself. Life can feel too short, and then based on satisfying social constructs, far too long. So I agree it’s best, if possible, to live as authentically as possible. We are constantly learning and sometimes it takes getting older to realize how young we are.

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  9. A beautiful post Praghalba 🧑 We all respond differently to time and the world around us and it is lovely you can have these honest conversations with your son. My late grandmother studied medicine at a time when not many women did and she enthousiastically put all the extra hours in because it gave her meaning. She worked as a GP until she was 75 and continued to read all the medical journals until she was over a 100 years old. She was eternally curious, full of fun and adventure with many hobbies and interests. I hope your son will find an interest or a calling that will inspire him too! πŸ’œ

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  10. Thank you for this PD πŸ™ Such a insightful conversation and a great question! These big questions can change perspectives and life’s trajectory.
    A few years ago I asked myself – What is most important to me … and then What do I want to organize my life around? Instead of fitting in yoga around my work schedule, I changed my work to fit around yoga. It opened up time and energy to really Be in the world.

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    • Dear Val, it is such a precious privilege to get to intersect these young minds. I am perhaps less than half equipped to be a parent, so I simply show up authentically. I learn so much myself from these conversations.

      It opened up time and energy to really Be in the world – this what you say is what I am attempting and practicing more and more each day. Consciously scheduling the day and following the voice of inspiration like you share feels more important than ever.

      Thank you so much, your response is a valuable contribution to me.

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  11. Its really sad that children have so much to do these days. Especially now with the lockdown there’s absolutely no socializing and their lives are filled with online school, homework, tests and assignments. Its them and their computers. Hope things change and they too can go back so they can do more than being in front of a screen.

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    • Exactly that’s the life they are living as you describe. It has become the new normal as if, and trusting that better new normals are coming that are more aligned with their health and wellbeing. Thank you so much for your kind visit.

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  12. Each phase in life has a different set of challenges to deal with. Guess sometimes the young minds get overwhelmed by the routine stuff they do at school. But he is lucky to have you around for a frank conversation and guidance. I am sure he will see the abundance that life has to offer in due course. Wishing him all the very best β™₯️

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  13. This pandemic really is tough for all, including the young ones. It is good he can talk to you. I this covid makes it hard for him to see where life is going, what can he do. Bless him. Big hug. I am sure when get older he will look back on his childhood and feel why did I say that I love life.

    For me being with the Divine through meditation is what keeps me balanced

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    • You are right, the pandemic is making it very hard to see where life is going. Also he has always been very deeply perceptive, he has been asking about what’s the point of life since very young. It has been interesting to give him my perspective and then together looking at the contrasts in the world that we are attempting to live through in our own ways. I have admitted to him long back that I have not much choice to offer to him for the school structure, he will have to go through it until adulthood, knowing fully well that it is not entirely what defines him, there is more for him to uncover. Thank you so much for your love and blessings for him.

      Yes conscious practice of being present to the Divine daily helps me too.

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  14. Kids at that age have no concept of what age is, Prag. I remember so clearly looking at my Mom one day who was in her thirties and declared to myself I would never get to be that old. Right! It’s a shame that our younger generations feel weighed down so heavily and I pray that lifts and soon. Our world has become so crazy. I will not let go of my faith that very real blessings are ahead of us that will include the whole world. Your son I believe will again be able to feel lighter despite all the schoolwork. Don’t loose hope for better days ahead and just keep on listening to the guidance of the Natural World. Give your son a big hug from me, OK? My heart so goes out to these kids today! xo

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    • It is indeed crazy in so many ways dear Amy. A lot of things absolutely make no sense to me in how they are done, and yet I have to keep silence as a parent to watch them go through it. I lack the capacity to give them any other alternatives. So I only attempt to offer my perspective that there is a lot more to the world than the limited version they seem to be locked in. They are opening up now, from – “the world doesn’t work like that mom!!” to “ok mom maybe but right now I can’t think like that” I am keeping full faith too that the Universe will open up and gobble up the unnecessary stuff and real blessings will come through. Thank you so much for your love and blessings.

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  15. Oh wow…I’m nearly 70, and yes life can be tedious at times (especially this year).. but during my life I have also enjoyed some glorious fun loving times and accumulated a treasure trove of happy memories, and I am expecting many more wonderful times to occur in my future…..
    And thank you for following my blog/website, I hope you enjoy my humble writings, and I’m from Geelong, Australia. Cheers. Ivor,..

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  16. What important conversations to have with your son. I have to say, the first thing I thought of when your son said what he said about living a long life. I often have the thought that this life doesn’t last forever, and immediately follows the thought “thankfully!” I don’t have bad thoughts about life or any wish whatsoever for it to end. But I think I was born with an understanding of the ‘time’ we have here. I am constantly aware of it, and constantly aware it is fleeting. Well, those were the thoughts I connected with while reading this. πŸ™‚

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  17. This speaks to me on so many different levels and I recognize your thoughts and were you find yourself at this point of the journey. For us, the days seem too short to juggle everything as we get burdened down by responsibilities. I think you are reevaluating, simplifying life. Hopeful to find new ways and means to make it happen. Your son hasn’t learned those lessons yet and he too feels the days are too short. You are at different points of the journey and yet at similar crossroads. Sending a big hug your way.

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  18. Since the tender age of ten, I’ve felt as though I’ve been living for a long, long time. Not old… just ageless. For me, life still seems long now, yet most days seem short. As a teenager, my days AND my life seemed long. When I hear others say, “Time flies by,” I always wonder if they are expressing their true perception of time, or if they are just repeating a clichΓ©.
    It’s wonderful that you can have such deep conversations with your son, Pragalbha. Thank you for the thought-provoking post.

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    • I can totally relate to the word ‘ageless’ Sometimes I feel I have lost the ability to measure time in the real sense. I have been around for very long it seems. The day just is – and it is gone for another one to come. Until there would be none, for me in this physical sense. It is so wonderful to read about your perceptions and mine came alive again πŸ™‚
      Yes I am very grateful for this opportunity with him. Thank you very much dear Magarisa.

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  19. Thank you for sharing this. It is so relevant to most of us in the current situation. I wouldn’t really know if someone told me that because I have my own days, some of them I believe in living and trying to do what I am supposed to be doing, but then some of those days I feel like your son feels. But I am happy that there is this conversation that can happen between the two of you.

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