Is this Waterfall Big or Small?
I used to remain small to keep others comfortable
That’s how we were used to being, relative to each other
Now
I feel nobody big
I feel nobody small either
There is a big difference…
*Kindly excuse me as I will be a bit delayed in getting back to your kind comments, in a day or two surely.
P.S. This is a contribution to ForgivingFridays of ForgivingConnects that promotes healing through forgiving of our judgments and limitations.
You are just you, without having to compare yourself with anyone else. Love the gorgeous picture accompanying your words.
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True Magarisa, it took a lifetime to learn how I was used to playing small. Thank you very much for your appreciation.
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You’re most welcome, Pragal.
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It is good not to judge. I suppose making oneself small may have made others feel more comfortable, but it may be better for them to feel they are not being judged.
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True Frank, judgment of all kind is not useful. Self judgment hurts the most. I appreciate you adding your thoughts here thank you!
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really profound thoughts:)
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Thank you very much.
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Letting go of comparisons is empowering. Let the water fall and appreciate it for what it is. Thanks PD for bringing me back to Center. 💛
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I loved what you said here Val. I feel honored when you comment, thank you very much!
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Big or small is just relative. It depends mostly on you how you describe… That’s why size changes! 😃✌️
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Yes it is all so relative. Thank you Raj for your visit and comment 🙂
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😊🙏
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Beautifully said Pragalbha
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Thank you for your support always!
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This is growth, or aging, or experience? When consideration can be extreme… when over sensitivity toward others is a detriment to your own self.
Thinking about your words on a quiet evening 💜
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Growth I feel indeed. You read me exactly here …it is the sensitivity to keep the other from hurt that held this pattern of playing small. Thank you dearest Diana for adding your quiet energy of contemplation to me.
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My energy gravitates to your warmth and genuine concern for the world around you, dear soul. Always a pleasure 💖💖
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You truly affirm and support my deeper way of being – helps me when at times I get muddled in self-doubt.
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I wonder if your self doubt starts to be heard when your soul is weary and mind tarnished. Is it there when you reflect on the beauty of a sunset or listen to the roar of the ocean? That is the time to know the self, reflecting in the incredible impossible us in the here and now. Doubt not, you are miraculous as the nature that surrounds us 💜
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You caught me right on …my soul does get weary at times. I am teaching myself to not ever trust in any moment of doubt and find love in that moment itself. Your last statement gives me a powerful affirmation. Thank you my friend, you are one beautiful beautiful soul!
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Well I have to admit that I enjoyed your message not once but twice …. a wonderful connection we share …smiling and sending hugs from afar xo
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Pragalbha, always beautiful post. I think and I assume in the indian culture, or may be some personalities, keeping ourself small is a mark of respect, meaning humility I could be bigger than them but out of respect I stay small and i dont have any resentment in doing so.
On the otherside keeping ourself small and thinking others big, could mean I dont understand my value, I lack confidence and I feel all are better than me. I lack self confidence or something.
Now I feel no big or small, means I have grown in my confidence, I realise my value, my contribution and I value everyone and myself the same. This is such a winderful moment if growth, discovery, freedom, and creates such happiness. But then one has to be careful of ego.
I read the other comments on comparison and they make total sense. With comparison and me feeling small, the root cause us a lack of self esteem, confidence, respect ..and until that Is broken by stepping out of comfort zones only then we see no difference because we niw value ourself.
I hope i make sense. Sorry another long conment
Regards Bella
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Beautifully dissected Bella, actually when the perceptions of big or small don’t exist , it otherwise leads to rising above the dichotomy of pain & pleasure, confidence or non- confidence, good or bad … an aura of true awakening enamouring our subtle consciousness ultimately paving the way for universality of perceptions, thoughts or actions ! Blessed times !
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Yes when there is no big or small it is just the feeling of harmony, respect, balance, comfortableness and a peaceful harmonious existence.
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Kamakhya, thank you. You are right about true awakening. And thats where peace and harmony flow. Then there is no concept of big or small, just the feeling of family and pure love and regard.
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Kamakhya: It is indeed an awakening of the self within taking away all the polarities we live with! I truly appreciate and loved your deep reflection! Thank you very much.
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Dear Bella you always give me utmost happiness with your in depth thoughtful reflections. It was very soothing to read your comment – first paragraph is absolutely true it was such cultural conditioning to stay small to convey respect. It turned in to what you say in the second paragraph lack of self value and confidence. This happens unknowingly without the intention of comparing but ultimately it translates to living in comparison to others. I agree how it is a wondrous moment of growth to break out of this pattern and feel the freedom and worth just for being ones self and not in relation to any other.
You absolutely read me exactly and gave me the happiness of affirming the process. Thank you very much!
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Dearest Pragalbha, oh that is so sweet of you. I love reading your post and i am happy that i am able to be in sync with the meaning of your posts.
Have a lovely day and week ahead. Look forward to next post. Bella
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There is no big or small no need to compare we are to work in harmony with each other not to overpower one another to be greater and make the other feel inferior. There should be no need to act less to make others feel greater. Simply be who you are. Bless you
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Yes absolutely beautifully true what yo say! It just took oh so long to reach this place of self awareness – anyone’s comfort cannot be the motive for us being a certain way, as long as we are honoring of each other.
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True we have to honour ouselves too
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I’ve really missed reading your words and thoughts. How beautifully you have written a few sentences which describe a huge issue for most people. There is this need to constantly compare and critique, without realising we are just as we are. There’s no comparion link needed. Thank you for sharing. I hope you have a wonderful weekend.
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You rightly say Laura that it is a huge issue for most people. There is absolutely no comparison necessary. Thank you so much for taking the time to visit here!
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You are very welcome 🙂
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And it’s an amazing difference when we can understand this for ourselves. ❤
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Truly amazing awakening! Thank you CM.
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You are very welcome.
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Yes, I love this peaceful place of not comparing. Not worry about how we measure up. Just being. Thank you, as always, for this beautiful reminder.
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It is peaceful and freedom indeed! Thank you dear Shelly.
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Oh Pragalbha, you are wonderful! This is an incredible demostration on how we are all the same, and that each one of us has beautiful gifts to contribute to the world. And gorgeous photo. Who took this, was it your son? 🙂 ❤ Thank you for contributing this post for #ForgivingFridays. It reminds me of a Tennyson quote, "I am part of all that I have met."
Much love to you and have a great week,
Debbie
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Thank you so much for your kind loving appreciation always dear Debbie! The photo is taken by my husband 🙂 The Tennyson quote you shared too me to a deep space. Thank you for sharing, love, light and joy to you always!
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I agree with what many have here mentioned, that there is no need for the comparison. You are you. Profound words here Pragalbha.
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Thank you Moushmi 🙂 this comparison is often unknown to ourselves as it comes as a deep conditioning. It is amazing to come to this awareness.
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Yes, its amazing how often we remain small to allow other to feel big… When we fathom that we need to be true to ourselves, regardless of how it makes others feel, We are neither big nor small.. Just individually unique in our own shell… Which fits just perfectly any size… 🙂 ❤
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Yes, the sensitivity to how others feel and wanting to always keep them comfortable often spiral down into this habit of playing small …until we learn to be truly ourselves. Thank you dear Sue for your visit 🙂 Our interaction before slowly opened up a space for me to make this post.
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I am happy to learn of this… Keep creating space to BE… ALL you are meant to BE… And BE proud of BE-ing who you are meant to BE.. ❤
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🙂 🙂
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Big and small…such a powerful analogy. Something that we need to realize the sooner.
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True, sooner the better. Thank you very much for your kind visit!
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in our “just being” we are yin and yang, both large and small ❤
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Yes, I love how you are putting this! Thank you dear friend.
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As a person that I have know you P, you are a beautiful soul I just know that and so is your verse.❤️
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That does make me feel beautiful and happy with myself dear friend and it means a lot really. Thank you, Much Love.
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Thank you for visiting my blog today and “liking” my poem. It made me feel like you were present. Thank you for your wisdom here. Thank you for being you in all the ways you are you. 💗
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You have the energy that soothes me and affirms me. I feel it while reading your poem and your words here. Thank you very much for being here.
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Thank you 🙏🏽 so very much for your feedback and your generous 💗
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lovely! I just wanted to let you know that wordpress would not let me like this post for some reason I don’t know what the new glitch is…Hope you have a great weekend ahead!
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Ah WP has it’s ways! You are kind to take the time to let me know. Thank you for your appreciating.
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A meaningful post and what a lovely message given
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Thank you so much for your kind words!
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A lovely message, Pragalbha 😇
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Thank you so very much! 🙂
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It is all in the perspective from which we see. We are all unique and special, not greater then or lesser then anyone or anything. Beautiful post, dear friend. Thank you for being who you are! 💝
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Yes Amy and I realized that so much of perspectives are conditioned and that becomes a comfort zone. So liberating to feel free of living relative to others always. Thank you so much for your kind support always!
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All a matter of perspective……a beautiful message Pragal!
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Thank you so much Radhika!
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It strikes me as so curious that very many of us do try to keep ourselves small in order to make other’s comfortable. Especially curious since there are so many people out there who are attracted to authenticity, to people who are as true to themselves as they reasonably can be. Being around such people can feel liberating.
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Your last statement is so true and it did take me quite a while to understand that!
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Wonderfully put! I think that is the essence of what maturity in any person is, and the level it should be, once achieved.
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Thank you for your thoughtful comment VS! It took me quite a while to get this awareness.
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Beautiful site… beautiful postings!
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You are very kind, thank you so much!
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You’re sincerely welcome.
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Do you truly relize how lucky you are? You get to be YOU
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Thank you 🙂 It does keep getting better the more I learn to just be me.
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