Often we carry our judgments as if our strengths
Often we don’t realize so much of it is self-judgment
So many demands on ourselves for that perfection or just rightness
So much guilt and embarrassment for that which doesn’t feel like our own self
It takes courage to look at all that and accept, love, forgive ourselves
It is tremendous relief to rest into ourselves softly, with all that we find there
Would you do this for yourself? Feel compassion just for a moment?
Would you rest in this moment? Find a way to keep going with kindness for yourself?
This post is a dedication to ForgivingFridays of ForgivingConnects. Dear Debbie, your work on this blog is a profound positive influence on me. Much Love.
So nice a write Pragalbha!
What better thing can be than feeling the tinge of compassion – the best way to make believe the proximity to wisdom ! Needed is the passion for compassion!
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compassion – the best way to make believe the proximity to wisdom – very well said in these words! Thank you so much for your thoughtful response in support.
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Always welcome
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Such deep wisdom within your words dearest Pragalbha. It took me years of self searching to go deep within myself. So often we apportion blame on others, yet carry guilt around with us, thinking we are at fault.. One the the greatest lessons I was able to learn, was not just to forgive others, but the greatest was to learn to forgive ourselves.
When I was able to do that.. The weight of the world just fell away.. as I understood the guilt I had carried not just in this life time.. but in many..
May you be blessed with the same weightless sensation as you begin to learn to fly my friend ❤
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‘The weight of the world just fell away.. ‘ – That’s exactly the feeling. So much we carry in thinking about how better we could have been in past instances …often we don’t even know we are carrying it. Everywhere I went wrong was every where I believed I was wrong inherently – like you say don’t know from how many lifetimes. Forgiving doesn’t make the wrongness into right – it just helps accept ourselves as is. Thank you for your kind support and blessings, that truly adds to me.
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My world just got even lighter, knowing you understand.. ❤
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I’m working on this very thing…I’m also finding more compassion for others who are on their very own journeys so different from mine, my heart is full with this new awareness…thank you for sharing this gentle wisdom, it’s so good to have this lovely reminder!
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Wish you ease and joy in your journey! This awareness surely lightens and brightens our being. And like you say it awakens us to other’s journeys. I am glad to know this spoke to you, thank you for sharing.
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My pleasure (always!)!
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Thanks for sharing this beautiful reminder. 💙
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I am very glad and grateful you think so.
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A simple eights lines full of liberation, compassion is the key to freedom. 🙏😊
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I am very glad and grateful you think so, thank you 🙂
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Our lack of compassion for ourselves may be worse than others lack of compassion for us. Good points about the courage and the relief that compassion brings.
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True, we have to give it to ourselves to even be able to receive it from others. I am glad you agree. Thank you for your thoughts Frank.
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Beautiful message Pragalbha. I love it.
Good morning Pragalbha 🌸
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I am so glad, thank you very much 🙂 You have an amazing day too.
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Thank you so much Pragalbha
Good morning
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Yes, I did learn the importance of self love lately just an year ago.
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It took me a long time to learn too. Thank you for your sharing.
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It takes courage to see our strengths and weaknesses, and even more to change. I agree that courage is compassion. The courage to change is the greatest gift we give to ourself.
Beautiful post.
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The courage to change is the greatest gift we give to ourself – truly said, I agree.
Thank you for your thoughtful words as always 🙂
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Welcome
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This is lovely. Sometimes we are so hard on ourselves, that we forget that even we deserve a little compassion from ourselves time and again.
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Thank you for your thoughtful response Moushmi. Yes indeed it is a continual process for us.
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Beautiful and thoughtful post, dear friend. I am learning to be more gentle with myself by not being so hard on me. As with anything else in life, it is a journey. Much Love to you this day! 🌹
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Yes it is a journey I agree. I need a continual reminder too to be gentle myself. Thank you for your thoughtful response dear Amy.
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Compassion for self is surely a courageous act Pragal! Not having that is even our ego. You are helping readers dive deep spiritually. Great advice!
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You are right – it is indeed the ego. Thank you Meenakshi!
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i would fly
in the face of any convention
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Thank you for your thought, sounds right.
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Wishing for all of us, deeper self-love – I enjoy your message dear Pragalbha!
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I am so glad, thank you very much!
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It’s a welcome process and I appreciate your tender reminder 🙂
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🙂
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Always beautifully written and inspired. I agree and thank you for the reminder to be compassionate with ourselves first before others. Bless you always
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Thank you so much for your kind appreciation and blessings.
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This is the first time I see what I just learned to do. It was so hard for me to accept be ok with myself. The weight of the world, fam. ties and preconditioning weighted me down like bricks. Now, since I just learned how to be ok with my self ( a year ago or so) it feels light and quite liberating. Very happy not to pass on this guilt and agony to kids, at least. Love your post, so heartfelt, P. and grateful to see it here, not just inside my soul.
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Such happiness and contentment to read your thoughtful comment. Thank you very much for sharing. I too relate and have done that – carrying the weight of all the ties and conditioning, and now love the taste of lightness and freedom. I am grateful for the resonance in our souls.
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Beautiful statement, P. Thank you so much for your returned feedback
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smart advice really well written, thanks 🙂
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Thank you for appreciating 🙂
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you’re most welcome!
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Absolutely, I would love to welcome this with open arms. It gives so much peace to practice compassion . Well said pragalbha 👍
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Thank you very much Deepika 🙂
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I really needed to read this right now. Thank you, Pragal.
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It is my greatest happiness that this reaches you in time. Thank you for letting me know Magarisa.
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The gratitude is mutual. 🙂
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An important message, that many of us dismiss. I think being giving and generous, kind and charitable (etc) are all things that come from us when we are kind to ourselves as well.
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Very true. Somehow your comment led me to think of all the facades of generosity some live with. Makes me wonder how much they stay unaware of themselves. What self- compassion mean for them?
Just shared what came up 🙂 Thank you for your thoughtful comment as always!
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You’re welcome Infinite. And then your comment makes me think of all of the people I came across in my line of work …. caregivers. People who gave of themselves, without caring for themselves. Sometimes it led to their own health problems, sometimes to other problems. Not caring for ourselves can have consequences.
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Yes, them. There are too many of them.
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The brilliance of your words and the message glow brighter than any star. We are too hard on ourselves. Loved this post. Have a glorious week.
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That is such high praise and it brings me happiness 🙂 Thank you so much for your positive appreciation. I trust all is well with you! Have a glorious week you too 🙂
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Meant every word. You are always spreading your positive vibes. Thanks.
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Much Gratitude for your kindness _()_
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True lines. Loved reading it. 👏👏👍
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I am so happy knowing that, thank you very much.
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It’s always a pleasure to read your literary pieces. Best wishes. 😄👏👍
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“It is tremendous relief to rest into ourselves softly, with all that we find there.” It takes courage to look with loving eyes inward.
Thank you for the inspiration. Have a beautiful day.
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It takes courage to look with loving eyes inward – I loved this. Thank you for your thoughtful response 🙂
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Nicely penned 👌👌 well done 👍 great post 👍😊
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Thanks.
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This so well describes (and is a helpful reminder) of lessons I have been learning in the last decade. It is so easy to want to run from instead of to rest into myself. Thanks for this reminder, P.
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Dear Shelly I am so happy to have your comment 🙂 It took me a log time to learn too and it is not the easiest always. Thank you!
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This spoke to me so directly. You have such a way with words! This line – “Often we carry our judgments as if our strengths” This is exactly what I do. As if somehow being tough with myself, makes me strong.
Compassion for us as people, is really one of the hardest things. I’m going to try to remember your poem, everything I feel I’m being negative. Thank you for sharing 🙂
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Such happiness to receive this wonderful comment from you 🙂 Thank you.
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You’re most welcome 🙂
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Oh Pragalbha, what a gorgeous poem of self-love, compassion and kindness. I am honored to share this for #ForgivingFridays. Your invitation to have compassion for ourselves …. to accept and forgive ourselves …. it’s so important. ❤
My doctoral treatise included a "Compassion Wall", where I wrote out moments of compassion to help me learn what that was for me. It really made a difference and became a foundation for my forgiveness work. Thank you, thank you for sharing your own experience here.
Love,
Debbie
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This post came to me as if a digestion of multiple processes for me and as I started writing it, I felt a deep connection to you and your work …reminded me of how your work entirely rests on this platform and comes from such admirable evolution as it seems to me. I am incredibly grateful to have found your work. Thank you dearest Debbie for your kind appreciation and sharing.
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Pragalbha, you seem to be such an evolved soul. I am amazed at the deep insights and questions your posts bring out. It truly makes one delve within, which is an enlightening path to tread on. I sincerely thank you for spreading this light to all here. Lots of love and peace ❤ !
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I am so happy and humbled to receive such kind thoughtful words dear Radhika. Thank you very much 🙂
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Wonderful photo. Compassion for ourselves is the first step on the path to transformation for us and the world.
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Thank you very much. Truly said!
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The baggage of the past keeps influencing our present, wary of being judged. If only we could just believe in ourselves and confidently be our real self. Easier said than done.
The picture adds to the wisdom of your words, Pragalbha
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Truly said my friend. Your reflection makes me happy as this is indeed easier said than done, certainly took a long time for me to understand this. Thank you for appreciating the picture too 🙂
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It was my pleasure, Pragalbha.
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