There’s some of us who have been told by our well-meaning friends that our brilliance has been wasted and our skills unused …as measured by academic standards and career achievements. And what a boost it is for us to know, how brilliant we are, and how amazing we would do in some ‘prestigious’ field! IF ONLY WE HAD THE OPPORTUNITY … but NO! We are merely living by with what came our way trying to make peace with it, trying to find our way through our own brilliance…
Which field of study are you choosing for higher studies?
How many degrees & from which reputable institutes do you have?
What abbreviations tag behind your name?
How big have you made it in your job? …the list keeps going as the potential never ends really, does it?
We have been taking in everyone else’s idea of what it means to be visible in the world in terms of our brilliance.
We live with these definitions in our minds and live really hurtfully with ourselves as nothing we do is really good enough …as we haven’t made it big in the world with these definitions hanging over us. The reasons keep coming …right things just always slip away from me, the most perfect things never seem to come to me, I got married too early, it’s too late I haven’t found my perfect partner yet and my career headed nowhere, my parents didn’t support/care enough, if only this and if only that …down the rabbit hole of judgment, resentment and rejection …of self, others, events, situations, life itself. Leading to more of the same!!
But Wait!! Wake up!! We have been giving in to a very limited definition of brilliance! We have listened to people in very limited number of settings – our school, workplace, friends, acquaintances – all operating from their outlook on reality. When did we make all that our own?
We actually keep missing out on so many simple ways of doing and being our best …just because we aren’t there where we are told we could have been.
By now I have met too many people with multiple degrees, multiple pursuits of achievement, all bringing out their utmost level of skill and brilliance. All that is valid, commendable …and never enough! I now measure my brilliance on my own terms in my own reality. As undefined by someone else’s understanding of it. Over the years my brilliance is shown in how truly happy I am with myself. How simple choices on an everyday basis bring me joy and the fact that I feel I have a choice on an everyday basis to create my reality.
We waste our brilliance when we try to build up castles of that perfect life in air as defined by others. We waste our power when it shows up as anger towards who we think is responsible for our so called failures.
That anger is the energy of our potentials coming up to point us to who we really are …part of Creation capable of creating our own reality. Our brilliance is in how we make a complete turnaround from the version of a limited possibility and reality. How we open up to an infinite way of being …coming back to being our brilliant selves on an everyday basis. There is no question of being someplace else, some particular designation or position to know your brilliance.
Our primary job is to be Happy! Moment to moment, thought to thought …flow through it only to find joy.
This can become the most difficult thing to achieve in life. The potential of the intellect seems easier to hold on to then. The idea of choosing only out of joy and happiness puts us right in the path of so many emotions waiting to be resolved within us. No amount of blame game helps. You are compelled to sit back with yourself …really have to get used to this. It can get so very sticky that we need an insane resolve and trust, in our ability to create exactly the reality that would bring joy to our being. The result is always the most rewarding and thrilling, as you have now used your own skill to define your own brilliance …as you tread through relations to extract only the best and the true out of them, through situations to extract only what serves you and gives you joy.
Seriously, how many of those then, who question the status of our brilliance in life, are sleeping that well at night? Striving for harmony and peace in your being on a day to day basis – even while in some shaky times – that’s brilliance! Look closely well-wishers, it is not complacent acceptance. We are treading slowly and joyfully through what unfolds, yet also looking to claim the territory of brilliance that is more visible in your reality …you see we are grateful for you, for keeping our spark alive in that goal, in still wanting and dreaming to make our mark in any area of our choice …with ease and joy, is what we insist now!
This really resonates with me. Excellent post, Pragal!
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Thank you Mag for reading and your affirmation.
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You’re welcome, Pragal
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Great post! We should definitely measure our happiness with what we want instead of comparing ourselves to others.
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Yes, thank you very much for your affirmation.
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You couldn’t have said it any better. Being truly happy is what matters. So many people put these ‘labels’ on others. Ugh.
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Yes labels, they are very limiting. Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thought.
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Great! Success should be measured by the smile-o-meter.
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Yes, love the smile-o-meter 🙂 Thank you for reading.
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Absolutely agree with you Pragalbha. It is futile to measure brilliance with academic records or material wealth. True happiness, small joys we experience and a good night’s sleep all define our growth!
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Thank you very much Radhika for reflecting and sharing your thoughts here.
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I’m amazed by the depth of your thoughts and your beautiful understanding of life that I’m compelled to say that your brilliance is reaching here.
Thank you for sharing such a great post. Very true and brilliantly written 🙂
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Thank you very much for your generous acknowledgment 🙂 I am truly happy that you liked this post.
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Expressed wonderfully well, pragalbha. Degrees are just tag alongs, which helps boosting the ego..Pure mental wellbeing and bliss are true measure of ones happiness. Well written.
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Truly loved your thoughts and reflection on my post 🙂 Thank you very much.
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I agree with you 100%. these are just norms that we have been following.
Academic records just can’t judge someone.
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Thank you very much reading and sharing your thoughts in agreement.
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Beautiful and wise reminders. It sounds like you are content in living up to your own expectations to be happy. My target would be in how truly loving and compassionate I am with myself. blessings, Brad
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Thank you very much for your kind and thoughtful words. If I find myself getting discontent I ask the question ‘who’s definition is this?’ …it’s either I keep living my definition or discard if I had taken on someone else’s. I appreciate you sharing your target …that is a welcome reminder always.
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This is a interesting post.
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Thank you
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Great post. We live in a community. We often think that when we live in a society, we have to live life based on what others say. But the truth is, we are living in a true community only when we respect our individuality.
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Your reflection is full of wisdom. I loved how you said your last statement. Thank you very much for taking the time.
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My pleasure. Thank you again. You are very kind. Keep on posting. God bless.. . .
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Brilliance of the Art
Of Life what YOU express shall never go a Waste.
Brilliant! 👍
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Your positive affirmation on his post means a lot to me, truly!! Thank you so much.
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Loved this post, Pragalbha. Your wisdom here is beyond any vocabulary that I can express with. Thank you for the reminder.
This line “Seriously, how many of those then, who question the status of our brilliance in life, are sleeping that well at night?” is one that we must always remember when ever we are in doubt.
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You are so kind and generous with your appreciation. Yes, that line of thinking finally put my own turmoil to rest. Thank you very much!
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