Is there a perfect spouse?
This question came up with my previous post that conveys a one-line sentiment To a Perfect Spouse.
No human is perfect. It is the perfection in relation to each other that matters. It is the freedom to be true to your being while having a tremendous commitment through all the messiness of human imperfectness. It is the dedication to evolving as a person with freedom, while nurturing the same freedom for the other. It is the care and love for the other, while standing steady on your own ground. And taking turns doing just that.
It is like having only one set of Teeth that you take turns to use, to chew on something called Life to you. LOL
It is bringing some fun and lightness while you do so for a life time. Sometimes even fun takes effort. It is honoring exactly what aspects of commitment are important to the other. And making it sacred, not sharing those aspects with anyone, in the name of free spirit or Infinite Living π
A perfect relation does not limit either one from having other wholesome relations of any name and gender, because of the tremendous trust, commitment and vulnerability they share. They know it is unshaken for this lifetime. There is trials and treacherous tests of life on such relationships. The perfection is in the survival, sustenance and strength of character shown in such relationships.
No one is born a perfect spouse. It is what they give to the other, is what makes them perfect. Sometimes we tend to think of ourselves as the perfect one of the two. Sometimes we believe the perfect spouse doesn’t exist …only for us. Because the demand is only on the other person to be perfect.
Perfection comes from the love, care and also tenacity in the relationship. If you find it lacking some in your spouse …there are some points of evolution that exist for the both of you. That’s where your commitment gets used to step up and take the lead in nurturing the relationship into how you want it to be. It may not be a quick process but very much worth it. It also requires courage and conviction in yourself.
I am not taking into consideration here, any extreme cases of struggling, deceitful or abusive relationships. At the same time, I feel all sustained and truthful relationships undergo struggle. Because we are Infinite Beings, not bound beings. We have an innate rebel against any bondage. Heck we even rebel against our abilities/inabilities of our bodies! As if we are stuck in our bodies with all it’s pains.
Infinite freedom is available to us within the boundaries of our relationships for change and choice, within the relationship and outside of that relationship. There are no rules and bondages except created or accepted by us. The only important rule is your definition of your commitment. Keeping that, how many self- barriers are you willing to break? How willing are you to support your spouse do the same? Will you take the lead? Will you acknowledge the process if your spouse takes the lead?
P.S. If you feel inclined here are few of my other posts on relationships from different times. I appreciate all thought processes shared on my posts. All exchanges of perspectives are a growth for all.
Posts of one line or few
Poetry
Prose
Relationships …a choice or a privilege!
Relationship illusions and Truth of Soul
You what i think, we are all growing and improving everyday, therefore ever relationship be it spouse, sibling, parents..etc. are always growing and evolving. So perfection..i think we are wip ( work in progress)..π€
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You are absolutely right! All relations are indeed a work in progress …it is a wise recognition always. Thank you very much for this comment.
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Yes, you’re so right. There’s a thing called “mood” or the Horse. π
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Thank you
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A perfect spouse demands another perfect spouse to be able to be a perfect spouse π
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Perfect way to summarize! Thank you π
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How is your spouse? Perfect, near perfect or not at all?
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Both of us are perfect for each other π We have strong intention of this perfection, and patient with all kinds of evolution …it is a rich lifetime that way. The previous post was a honest one π Freedom within commitment.
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Good to hear! I love succes stories. Too few around. And freedom is vital for a working relationship. π
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Thank you for this conversation π Freedom is vital, true.
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I don’t know if ever there could be.
I guess we are all evolving.
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True we are always evolving. I believe everything is possible with conviction and intention. Thank you for sharing your thoughts π
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“It is like having only one set of Teeth that you take turns to use, to chew on something called Life to you.” great comparison π, of course you can always change your teeth and often you have to repair them π
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π Thank you. Yes, regular maintenance or replacing is required sometimes π
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Wow..what a wonderful post. Loved the thought, take the lead in nurturing the relationship instead of blaming..the title is so inviting..and I must tell there is no perfect spouse at all..ππ the question is, why do we need a perfect spouse? When All we need is love..enjoyed reading this one..keep giving such thoughtful posts.
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Your generous response brought a smile to me π You are right, all we need is Love. Thank you very much for your support.
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A Perfect Spouse is like an unicorn π¦ a mythical creature π π
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Haha that sounds good! π Thank you for your thought.
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A good relationship is not a perfect one.
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That is a good perspective. Thank you very much for sharing.
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A perfect spouse in a perfect relationship are two people who strive to make the imperfections perfect and seal it with a promise of love and trust. Totally agree with your thoughts, Pragalbha!
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You summarized it absolutely well. Thank you very much for reading and reflecting!
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Always, my pleasure, Pragalbha
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Perfection is illusion in ever changing world.
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Yes, Perfectly said! I am so grateful to have your reflection.
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You are extremely gentle and kind. Thanks for sharing such post.
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This is such a great post! Perfection is not even in nature. How can we expect it in us humans. And the perfect spouse?! Ha ha ha It’s these small imperfections in each other that we come to love, like hate and forget. That’s a perfect relationship!
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π Absolutely well said! Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts on this post.
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You’re welcome π
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I am also inclined to believe that commitment is usually the binding force amidst the naturally wavy ride.
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That is so beautifully said! I am so glad to have you in agreement, thank you very much for kindly taking the time.
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