It is too long that you stayed in that shell …to keep others comfortable.
There are some around you who have always loved you, with whom you are amazing and it is easy. You feel safe being yourself. Then why walk on eggshells in the rest of the world? Why numb and dumb down the goodness and brightness in you ? Sometimes to the point that you feel like the most ungracious or insensitive person?
Nobody realizes that you are trying to be just the opposite, or simply trying to fit in. You value them too much …more than yourself! They are getting used to that …your misery even. And you are getting comfortable with that. In your mind you are being nice to them …stop …just stop!
They are taking your appreciation and praise, for everything about them, as your weakness, or worse jealousy. When you soar higher than what they perceive you to be (and you are still nowhere in your perception) …what will you take their unappreciation of your journey as? How will you look at their lack of acknowledging of your existence?
Look at those who really ‘see’ you. You seem to do everything right towards them.
Break the shell, crack open …Do what it takes! It’s worth it! They will find others who feed their comfort. Yes, give them the shock …stop hurting so much!
They will have to step up, to be able to understand you and cheer you in your growth. They will have to know the pain you pay as your dues. The grace you are showing as you choose to crack open and take flight.
You in your truthfulness will mourn your perceived loss of some of them, because you truly cared about them. That’s why you kept them comfortable while you suffered being trapped in an unwholesome reality.
Yes, I know you also have done some things wrong to some. Those too will reach out to you or you to them, in your growth. Just that you are not accountable to all of them this very minute, so don’t judge yourself so hard.
Go ahead take that step, a small change, break open, fly. The ones ready for growth will grow with you, or even break some towards their own growth. Some will fall away, as you both cannot see eye to eye now.
Forgive yourself, forgive them, love yourself, love them, allow yourself to Be, allow them to Be. Trust me, trust me, trust me it’s worth it. When you feel stuck and choose to wiggle out, it hurts, it’s worth it.
The ones who care for you and the ones you care for, will have to accept you as you are today. Let them know you want ONE with them, you are one of them. But be stronger on your own path. Some of them Never let go!!
Break out of anything you are keeping yourself in …one step at a time!
Oh, this gentle message has many great suggestions, could be applied one at a time.
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That is a great feedback to me, thank you very much!
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Wow, there’s so much depth in this. I’m sure many out there can relate to this. Great work.
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Thank you very much for your visit and appreciation 🙂 I think most of us go through some version of this.
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This is so insightful and really ‘spoke’ to me today… I had a shock with the response I received from a very old friend this week and now I can possibly understand why from what you have written… Thank you for helping me gain some understanding and recognising that sometimes it’s time to ‘let go’ and be myself.. xx
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I am so very happy that this reached you at the right time and it helped! I guess some friends serve us very well this way 🙂 Thank you very much for your sharing and response.Love, joy and ease to you.
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It did for which I’m very grateful.. Love, joy and blessings to you in return. xx
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I remembered this week that others only have the power over me that I give them.
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Yes so absolutely true! Thank you very much for sharing and your visit.
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inspiring and important………”letting go” “breaking free” is the only thing standing between our true selves and true happiness…..but until we do….there is only regret and guilt…..
Amazing post to start the year….. 🙂 🙂
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Thank you for your perfect thoughts on this 🙂
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i love reading you……i wish i had read it sooner…. 🙂 🙂
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Thank you 🙂 …I did worry how much I had missed from you. Please let me know if you think I should see any of your post that I missed …I believe I did catch up 🙂
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i think you caught up…….but i will surely bother you if i see something unseen… 😀 😀
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OK great! …and I will return the favor, if you miss any of mine 🙂 …like for example my latest post hahaha
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oh i missed……..because i forgot that i was back to blogging….lol
i check you site regularly…….i won’t miss the next one now…. 😀 😀
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Thanks for the happiness 🙂
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you are very welcome!! 🙂 🙂
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This is beautiful — “Forgive yourself, forgive them, love yourself, love them, allow yourself to Be, allow them to Be.”
Blessings….so glad you are here 🙂 Thanks for your blog. Love, Debbie
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Truly value your visit and feedback. Thank you very much for bringing those lines back to me.
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Definitely! You got it 🙂
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This resonates with me so much. Time to stop playing myself down for others’ comfort. Thank you.
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Thank you Julia for your visit and your comment. All of us go through some version of this, I think.
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Great thoughts here Pragal, this made me understand the related post better… May the goddess of wisdom churn many more such thoughts from you.
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I truly appreciate yo taking the time for both. Thank you so much for the beautiful blessings that you sent my way!
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Nice post. I like one line in the last paragraph “Forgive yourself and forgive others”.
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Thank you so much for visiting back here and sharing the line you like.
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